5 Reasons NOT to Have Kids in Your Twenties
Babies or the beach? Barbie dolls or martini’s? Hmmm… Well, if you want kids one day, why not have it all??! You have plenty of time to add little bouncing babies to your life’s plan, should you so choose, why not take time for yourself first?
Reasons NOT to Have Kids in Your Twenties:
1 – Kids are Expensive!
According to a study by the USDA
, it will cost the average middle-class family $222,360 per child to raise them from 0 to 18.
ACK! Did your eyes pop out of your head when you read that?! And, that number does not even include college…….
Considering that the size of your pie slice decreases after giving child birth, take a few years to spend your hard earned money on YOU. After you have been out of school for a few years, and finally have a good income, that is the time to start traveling the world, taking on exciting hobbies, and going to places you can’t (or wouldn’t want to) go with kids. Vegas? Amsterdam? Paris? New Orleans? The list goes on and on…
Don’t think, “Oh, I’ll just wait until retirement,” because 1) you do not know if you will be around that long (sorry to be honest); 2) retirement age, especially with the current economy, could end up being 123, which points back to #1; 3) life could happen. You do not know where you will be, what your financial situation will be, or what life will throw your way. You CAN control what is happening to you right now. Take the reins and live in the moment.
2 – Your Eggs aren’t in a Nursing Home. Yes, it is true that the older you are when you try to conceive, the more complications you could have. But, did you know that your chances of getting pregnant don’t reduce that dramatically from 25 to 44? Yes, thaaaat’s right. In a study performed by the National Center for Health Statistics, you have an 86 percent chance of conceiving within one year if you are between 25 and 34, and a 78 percent chance if you are between the ages of 35 and 44. So, your chance of getting pregnant naturally drops by only eight percent!
Other medical complications can increase, typically after the age of 35, but your eggs certainly aren’t using walkers if you wait until to have children. What’s the Rush?!TM
3 – Spontaneity is Key. Without children you can leave whenever you want. Want to go to the coast this weekend? Sure! How about a last minute camping trip, or happy hour, or a movie, or a late dinner? You will have plenty of time down the road to schedule your life around tee-ball games, band practice and little Johnny’s need for braces. You will have countless occasions to not only beg for a babysitter, but then to also ask them to pretty please, you’ll pay them double if they can, just stay an extra few hours. Slow down, have fun, and use this time to enjoy your freedom!
“‘As a group, parents of all types and all socioeconomic levels in the United States report more symptoms of depression and emotional distress than their childless adult counterparts,’ said Robin Simon, a Wake Forest University sociology professor who researches the association between parenthood and emotional well-being.”
“Harvard psychology professor Daniel Gilbert’s book Stumbling on Happiness looked at several studies and found that children give adults many things, but an ‘increase in daily happiness is probably not among them.'”
“‘It’s such a counter-intuitive finding, because we have these cultural beliefs that children are the key to happiness and a healthy life, and they’re not,’ said Simon.”
Babies do not equal happiness so do not fall into a trap thinking they will complete you or make your life better. Only YOU have the power to do that.
5 – Responsibility: The only person you have to feed, clothe and house is the person in the mirror. Without children you can take bigger risks like quitting your job to start your own business. If it is just you, the Ramen Noodles diet is an okay option.
You have plenty of time to become accountable for a child’s education, their moral and ethical values, to worry about their health (both physical and mental), to wonder where they are at all hours and to have sleepless nights. Right now, you are responsible for YOU. Enjoy it and make the most of it because you won’t get this time back.